In the beginning, there was lust…(How I lost my VL virginity 1/3)

Literally, my daughters 5th birthday was on today. Who knew a bunch of 5yo girls going crazy around your home could wipe you out so much! And so, after a nap and a couple of vodkas, I’m back!
Enough verbal foreplay; time to discuss what many have been waiting for. How I lost my virtual virginity.
Like dating it’s not a simple answer and has most certainly had its decline into depravity but like many new to the mmog world and the social interactions I wasn’t quite expecting the reception I got from many men. I’m usually all for women’s liberation and the freedoms set out by our predecessors but I have to admit having a few dozen men referring to you as ‘my lady’ and laying their virtual lives on the line for you and a return the chivalrous Knights of old was rather mesmerising.
I found some great friends online many who had a similar sense of humour to mine and found their ways to the gaming world out of mainly curiosity.
After the birth of my daughter I fell into quite an abyss of depression. Although I cared too strongly for my daughter to commit suicide, I struggled every day to find what I consider ‘the light’ in everyday situations. Comments or every day happenings I took as a personal slant and I couldn’t find a way to take a positive spin on anything.
By this stage in the game I’d befriended a doctor who I’d refer to as my virtual husband. Ultimately he gave me tips to help cope with my mood better and to this day means the world to me for his help.
Around a year & a half into my Lords & Knights gaming a new player joined. Ray, an engineer with a wicked sense of humour. We started chatting publicly in our alliance forums but as time and teasing progressed we moved our conversations to private. Neither of us had played online games and both had a partner & children in real life plus he was based in Sweden so from my perspective I figured he was a safe option for me. Back in the days when I had minimal virtual footprints.
First our conversations were totally innocent, we both shared the same sense of humour and got on like old friends, as time progressed we seem to fill emotional voids in eachothers lives and found ourselves talking multiple times a day, starting with “good morning β˜•οΈ” in the game and ending with “sweet dreams”
*Brief interlude and back a few days & several naps later.*
The natural progression of our conversations would officially lead to sexting. Still innocent in the early days I guess, it was new territory for us both. No lude photos just stories we shared, a fantasy world we created for our existence together.
Ray was different, after 15 years of marriage and with a little one. He was the first person who made me feel sexy again not just a wife or mum but a woman. I have a sense I also did the same for him. Both our partners had little time to meet our emotional needs in this area but I also think the taboo nature made it more exciting. 
I have a strict honour code and would never cheat but as a women with an incredibly high sex drive these liaisons I felt both safe and in control of, after all who doesn’t like a partner they can power off after they got whatever they needed from them 😜
When we finally started writing sex stories to one another and posting Google images of locations or positions we liked we’d used those visual references to write stories to one another. I’ll post some of these but I’m not sure how well they’ll be received, we tend to feed off one another’s words and the stories built themselves from there.
My partner knew what I was doing, (my honour code again, I had to tell him) essentially I had the mental connection with a guy who would get me so excited when hubby got home I’d jump him so for a time it was win/win. But my virtual love failed to share with his wife and when she found the stories it put a stop to our liaison, for a while. I even tried to speak with her to explain my side. She joined the game to get to know that side of him better but I think the naughtiness and my playing style was part of his allure to me. Particularly as the game was his escape from the pressures of family/his business/learning business Swedish since he’s a native English speaker/life in general.
We tried stopping, but both needed another still, we stopped messaging as much but still cared deeply for one another, we still do. We’ve got some great photos we shared, still clothed but we loved teasing. We did progress further recently but more on that later. 
Our exploits over the years have changed, the stories no longer occur but we email to catchup.

πŸ’ƒ Finding my inner gamer girl πŸ˜œ

Sorry about my absence of late, you’ve not been forgotten at all, time eludes me when kids school is starting and I’m trying to organise an epic Frozen party for my daughters 5th birthday, ok not epic but at least have some fond memories for her so when she’s older and decides to put me in a home, it’s a nice one 😜
In 2009 whilst carrying my first baby I was restricted from doing a lot of activities and heard so much about mmog (multi member online gaming) and after finally getting bored of Wii games and FB games like Mafia Wars and FarmVille I thought I’d give it a shot. 
I’d always been a bit of a tom-boy when it came to my gaming habits. Having played Dune & Drug Wars in the 80’s, Command & Conquer, Sims in the 90’s and still loving the strategy side of war games. But it was a side hobby and near the bottom of my list of fun things to do, travelling and vodka being bigger priorities. Sadly whilst pregnant neither of those options were available to me and although I had a ton of fictional books to read, I needed something that kept my mind active, gave me a social network whilst all my friends were working (I was the first of my social group of friends to fall pregnant so didn’t know any other ‘mums’) and yet I could still watch TV. I have always and continue to game & watch TV not sure why, just find the escapism better, perhaps I need layers of escapism? 
TV is something I use to zone out to, I have series I enjoy but I tend to focus my attention on the games or other activities. If I get addicted to something I seem to go the whole way and it’s all encompassing. I still run an export business and bring in superhero type cuff links for sale but will switch to anything I think I may be able to turn a profit on. As the gaming has become more enjoyable for me the business has waned a little and then I went back to work a few days a week.
But I digress, my first game was Lords & Knights, the same premise as many of these games you build an empire and fight others. Get abused or complimented on your fighting based on how much damage you do to them and the type of player they are. You have the option of buying gold to speed up your buildings so you can get ahead of gamers like me who still holds onto cash for kids things, dresses or vodka (of course). 
You join an alliance and depending on the strength of those in your alliance makes the difference to your ability to attack others. So too does a willingness of the players and good strategy of your alliance. Through various chats you speak and build up quite the rapport with players as well. Sharing in similar history, lives or humour. 

The networker in me couldn’t help but look for business opportunities as there were many gamers from Australia and chatting daily with these people you build quite the rapport. Often you could share some of your deepest feelings with these virtual presences because unlike your friends or real life social groups there were no judgements made. I have found many great friends online and one I’ve met in RL who I’ve also done work for has become a good friend (not in that way, the gutter stories come later!)

My competitive nature made me look for some of the strongest players and seek out advice to advance more strategically or use their score as goals for my own personal scorecard. Fortunately for me there was no shortage of “Knights” willing to help a “damsel in distress” so company was never an issue, which leads me quite nicely to my epic journey and what I assume some of my more depraved or at least, ‘interested’ readers may be waiting on, the promise story of how I lost my virtual virginity. It’s coming and will (of course) be in great detail. What use is this if I can’t be wholly myself 😌

The Sleeper and the Spindle by Neil Gaiman

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A thrillingly reimagined fairy tale from the truly magical combination of author Neil Gaiman and illustrator Chris Riddell – weaving together a sort-of Snow White and an almost Sleeping Beauty with a thread of dark magic, which will hold readers spellbound from start to finish.

On the eve of her wedding, a young queen sets out to rescue a princess from an enchantment. She casts aside her fine wedding clothes, takes her chain mail and her sword and follows her brave dwarf retainers into the tunnels under the mountain towards the sleeping kingdom. This queen will decide her own future – and the princess who needs rescuing is not quite what she seems. Twisting together the familiar and the new, this perfectly delicious, captivating and darkly funny tale shows its creators at the peak of their talents.

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Cyber sex or scamming?

Playing games as long as I have and being of the fairer sex I’ve had plenty of run-ins with guys seeking my affection. Some I’ve welcomed, some I’ve avoided and some were just downright disturbing! These liaisons I’m happy to share here but first I wanted to explore the cyber sex scam world as its crossed my virtual path. 

A little advice on penis etiquette – Guys please, if you think I’m going to be impressed by the magnificence of your weapon then give me some warning before you have me open your messages, a little πŸ”ž and some VL decorum is appreciated. I’m happy to provide manscaping feedback with the amount of time some men handle these you’d think they’d tidy them up a bit? I find it hard to see the house through the forest πŸ™ˆ
FaceBook scams
Within games you’re often asked to like the FB page to get more points or gaming boosts so naturally I’ve done that because I’m one of those gamers who’s too cheap to spend money within a game. Well that and I’d rather spend my hard earned money on coffee or shopping 😏 I created a FB page specifically for my virtual life including gaming Ladie InRed (feel free to add me if you wish?) I tend to enjoy my virtual page over my real one which has more judgemental people on it, like friends, family and work mates.
I noticed that many guys who added me had an incredibly high ratio of attractive women so I added a couple of these obvious fake profiles and the resulting lude messages were just as shameless as some of the pickup lines I’ve been sent from guys. These were the more obvious ‘You are so beautiful’ ‘I’d love to get to know you better’ ‘you’re eyes make me want to take you to my bedroom’ etc. All of them inevitably wanted you to add their FB page which would get you to their ‘private’ webcam site, for a more exclusive performance at a price. Here’s where I’d end the convo. Funny how none of them have chased me up later for ‘friendship’ 
Social chat apps scams
Many games require you to join an alliance, within these alliances you build solid friendships with like minded players. Generally to chat about the game it’s easier to have a social app like Line, Viber or others but they’re not nearly setup as well as the mentioned apps. But these apps allow you to chat in a group or individuals without having to log into the game, particularly useful if you want to talk about the game without being obvious, at work for instance or with a non-gaming spouse around to keep the peace.
In the more ‘open’ social apps the scammers add you as a friend. As soon as you add them you’ll get a run of automatic questions, obviously computerised. As soon as you respond the next automatic question comes through along with a series of empty compliments. The end game is to have you register to join their live weblink, “just click on this link, I’ll give you 10 minutes free” the usual rubbish. I literally replied to each message with the following words ‘This’ ‘is’ ‘a’ ‘scam’ and still got their weblink.
I’m sure there are plenty of other ways that these places try to get your $ but these are the ones who’ve specifically made contact with me, so far. Still a big wide virtual world out there. To be honest I commend these people for using the oldest of professions by way of making some extra cash but there are so many new to online relationships that I thought this may help you a little along your cyber journey.
Good luck and happy sexting / gaming!
Next issue; how I lost my virtual virginity – Part 1/3 πŸ’ƒ

And so it begins πŸ’ƒπŸŒΉ

Lady in Red or as Facebook has made me rename my gaming self to Ladie InRed (recognising Lady as a title not a name) has finally decided to see if there may be other like minded gamer girls or guys who want to share my journey through virtual life (VL).

I’d like to share some stories of my gaming world and experiences of dealing with people emotionally, mentally, sexually and the challenges we all face with those who say ‘it’s only a game’ and those of us who know that you spend hours talking to these virtual strangers things easily become ‘more than a game’

You may have noticed I’m a mature gamer if such a thing exists! I’m 38yo and although always played computer games since my high school sweetheart introduced me to Dune many many years ago, I’d never really played online strategy war games until I was pregnant with my first child 5 years ago, the rest they say is history, well virtual history anyway.

I hope things I share here might help others who will no doubt come across similar in their own worlds or you might find the exploits and interactions I have entertaining. We all need more silliness in our lives.

Anyway kind reader, welcome and good luck to us all and look forward to the ride!

Next issue: Cyber sex or scams? 

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